Recently, I saw a very popular post with the topic "What kind of pain does it take to marry a trader". From the topic of the post, it is a negative description, but it does reflect that many traders have caused a lot of trouble to their families because of their transactions. Among the many threads, I have selected a few representative ones:
"The family member didn't listen to the persuasion and sold the house for a transaction. As a result, the house payment is almost lost, and the original house has more than doubled in value."
"I face the computer every day, my parents don't see me, I'm sloppy... not like before"
"I made a lot of money for a while, and I quit my job on a whim. Now... alas"
"The children don't pick up after school, and they feel that they want to make a fortune and realize their ideals every day, and people become paranoid"
There are many, many replies like this, covering almost all possible negative effects. Trading is originally for everyone to go for wealth. The original intention is to make money to make life better for yourself and your family, but the result is full of chicken feathers. I guess that's not how a deal should be. The 11th and 15th are both National Day and family reunion. I think all traders should take a little time to think about what trading should bring to us and our families, and how we should handle the relationship between trading and our family. .
1. Purpose of transaction
There are two sides to my understanding of the purpose of the transaction. The first aspect is what most people value, which is to obtain more money and wealth through transactions and provide richer financial security for life; the second aspect is to achieve self-transcendence, realize one’s own value, and satisfy oneself through transactions. own spiritual needs.
Whether it is hope to increase wealth or realize self-worth through transactions, it is essentially to make our lives happier.
2. Why things backfired
Hundreds of millions of traders can really achieve their trading goals, but very few people successfully realize "trading makes life happier". On the contrary, many people have the opposite effect-trading makes life worse, as mentioned in the forum above those examples. Perhaps many people whose lives have become worse because of transactions have repeatedly asked themselves why this happened.
In my personal opinion, the reasons why most people fail in trading are: first, cognitively exaggerating the effect of trading on wealth growth, and this is how many people fall into the trap of getting rich mentality; second, they do not have stable profits In the professional field, it is difficult to survive in the professional field with an amateur level; the third is extreme paranoia, getting deeper and deeper, thinking that the failure of the transaction is not working hard enough, and thinking that hard work means spending more time on In terms of trading, it may be that the harder you work on the wrong path, the more you will fail; the fourth is that you will not correctly position the transaction, mistakenly make the transaction the center of your life, and even mistakenly regard the transaction as the only center of your life.
3. How to change
Many traders may have troubled themselves and the transaction because of the transaction, so how to change it, how to realize the original intention of the transaction to make the family happier?
One is decentralization. For traders, trading is indeed very important, especially when many traders are very interested in trading. But transactions are not that important, don't think you can't do without transactions. To put it to the extreme, even if there is no transaction, you still have other ways to acquire wealth and realize your own value. You can make deals important, but don't be the only ones that matter.
The second is to go professional. To make money in trading, it is impossible to rely on luck without any real skills. Buying lottery tickets depends on luck, no matter how low the probability is, there may be a little probability, such as one in 100,000. But without professional ability in trading, the probability of finally being able to make money and leave the market is zero. You can be a retail trader, not necessarily working in a trading company, you can be a business trader, but you must be professional in terms of ability.
The third is to talk about resignation. Whether trading can make money depends not only on professional ability, but also on market conditions. If the market conditions are good, traders may earn a lot. When the market conditions are bad, no matter how hard you try to trade, it will be thankless. From this perspective, the short-term profit of trading should be taken lightly and resigned.
The fourth is life stabilization. I have always believed that trading is for a better life, and only with a stable living condition can I do a good job of trading with more peace of mind. The two are complementary. Usually from Monday to Friday every night because I have to do online live trading training classrooms, so children can’t help me with reading, but usually I have more time during the day, and I can do small things for the family and drivers as much as I can. When traveling, I try to spend as much time with my family as possible.
It's Double Festival, and I wish all traders a happy reunion and happiness, and finally realize the original intention of trading to make life happier.
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